I can’t believe I wrote about this five months ago and I am still here in the same situation. Nothing has changed even with good intentions.
I can’t believe summer is practically here and I am placing the exact same clothes on my body just as I had done last year. I remember folding those clothes up at the end of the season thinking it would be the LAST time I would be seeing them. I still have visions of myself smiling as I slowly packed each piece away thinking they would never touch this body again.
Wrong.
And now? I just feel stuck.
At the start of the New Year I swore that this time was going to be it. I was going to do what I had to do to get rid of this “baby” weight. The problem is that baby will be two in September so there is no excuse. Back in January I wrote about this issue and here I am writing about it again. To make matters worse, two years ago I officially began to work from home so my need for getting “all dressed up” to turn on my computer or play with my kids seemed ridiculous. I found myself getting “fully dressed” only when I went out to the store or to pick up my son. It’s hard to motivate myself to look all glam when it’s really just for the Target cashier or my pediatrician. Yes, that is my reality.
So aside from the “baby” weight issue and being stuck in the same clothes as last year, I look at everything in my closet even down to the cute shoes that I have and I truly have nowhere to wear them to – it’s almost like the end of an era. And this same feeling hits me even when I browse online and stumble upon a gorgeous pair of pumps like these from Kate Spade: {image credit}
I am at that point in my life in which I absolutely cannot spend $325 on a pair of Python Print Pumps {paying a mortgage, graduate school loans and raising two children} but it’s also the notion that even if I did own them I would have no place to wear them as a WAHM. You see, all of these emotions also hit me at once…
My friend recently went back to work full-time and needed me to watch her son for the afternoon. She dropped him off and after we chatted for a brief moment it was the first time I truly felt stuck in the middle of this battle.
I watched her walk to her car in her cute jeans, white open toe heels and adorable sunglasses while I stood there in the doorway, waving back to her in my black yoga pants, t-shirt with dried-up snot on my shoulder from my baby girl, holding her on my hip while chasing after the two boys behind me. I used to be that cute girl in designer jeans and heels, rushing off to work and now I just find myself stuck in this space. I think The Mommyologist needs have another chat with me about bringing my Mom Sexy back…
Regardless, I have since realized that a big part of my problem with this weight battle is pure lack of motivation. And this needs to change if I want to see change. I can’t give up this fight until I win.
Although I’ve come a long way of loving this body after giving birth to two babies, I need clothes that fit and right now they don’t. I need to do this for myself. I have everything else in order and going for me in my life right now so why is this so freakin hard?
And when I even remotely think about those Fall clothes from last year waiting for me – I’ll be damned if I am stuck in those, too.
I think you should look at the workouts at beach body. I personally am a HUGE fan of Chalean Extreme and Insanity. They are both excellent workouts that fit a person’s schedule and they work!
Good luck! Oh – I would do some retail therapy too. A girl always needs a new cute outfit. I know that makes me feel good.
.-= Theresa´s last blog ..Hi =-.
I feel you completely. Right now, I’m 30 weeks pregnant with #2 and all I can think about is how I hate all of my clothes and when and if the weight comes off, my old clothes don’t work either. I’m glad you wrote this post, I think a lot of moms go through this. Good luck!
.-= Christine´s last blog ..Menu Plan Monday, it’s back! =-.
Thanks for the feedback Christine. But the other question I have is how do moms that are home motivate themselves to look all glam…when they are home? I am struggling with this – I have so much jewelry, cute shoes, etc. but where am I wearing them to? This is part of the issue for me as well…
Oh, I feel ya! I tried on my favorite bikini on weekend. And I feel terrible lol.
This week I started to eat grapefruit which I posted about it this morning.
Good luck!
.-= yonca´s last blog ..Los Portales =-.
Heather, trust me, as a full-time working mom who does have to get dressed up for work everyday it doesn’t get any easier. I’m with you, full on baby weight and NO TIME to do anything about it. I made the same vows, I want to lose 10 lbs before New York in August. Will it happen? Likely not. Why not? Because I have not time to focus on it and weight loss takes lots of focus!! Especially as we get older.
.-= Christine LaRocque´s last blog ..Small town regret =-.
Ha! I just told myself that everytime I thought about how “fat” I was, I would drop and give myself 10 push-ups…it’s working. Thinking “fat” now equals doing something about it right away…shit, I’m in my workout clothes already anyway, right? Wear some killer shoes right now…who cares that no one else will see them? I wore my new sexy shoes to tutoring last night…who the hell is going to care when I’m with a bunch of kids at a library, right? Well, it made me feel better about myself and that’s really really important.
.-= Rebecca´s last blog ..Weekly Winner…late courtesy of Blogger and that spinning rainbow circle of death =-.
I need to start trying that, too Rebecca – and every little bit should help right?
I feel you, Heather! I actually had gotten bigger after my son was born. I had just lost 10 pounds from going back to my morning walk and it feels great but still all my fancy clothes and sexy heels are still stuck inside my closet because I don’t dress up that much. Chasing a toddler with a killer heels might kill me! Sometimes I envy other moms here who have nannies for every single child they have – I know shocking! That they can tote their cute little purse and strut in their pretty heels while the nanny does all the work. But I promise myself when my son starts school and I start working again those long time closets residence of mine will see the lights of days (or nights) again 😀
Maureen – That will be one fine day – when I have a normal relationship with my closet again, one that I frequent and one that will contain clothes that fit and make me feel good. I can’t wait until I can blog about THAT.
This post hits SO CLOSE TO HOME for me. I wrote about something similar last week. I feel like all I do is spend my days in stretchy yoga capri pants and I did that last summer with tanks every day, and I don’t really want to do it again. But, I feel torn. My body is not at all shorts-friendly nor do I feel good in them. But even though those gauchos are super comfy, I feel like a lazy fat A$$ in them. I actually feel termoil over my closet and the impending warm weather. I feel like I have nothing to wear, nothing I want to wear, and nothing to wear the few things I like to. Any advice or suggestions that you stumble upon, please send them my way!
.-= Chrissy MacCEO´s last blog ..Wordful Wednesday:: Slip n’ Slide! =-.
Chrissy – One suggestion was to buy ONE thing that makes me feel good and work toward getting to a place I want to be – but the idea that looking cute in ONE new outfit will spark some interest. At this point, I’ll give it a shot. Because I’ve never felt this “negative” about my body – ever. I need a change to happen, NOW.
I completely relate to this. Even though I do have to get dressed up for work every day. I still have half a closet of prebaby clothes that don’t fit and another half of a closet of stuff that I’m just bored with.
I wish I had the motivation to workout and the discipline to eat better but it’s hard to find the time and I have the willpower of a mouse. So, I continue to hold my breath every time I pull on a pair of pants that don’t have an elastic waistband.
You’re not alone on this one, Heather. I’m right here with you.
Either they don’t fit or I am bored with them – exactly. Thanks so much for the feedback and that I’m not alone. I need to get motivated because I’m totally done.
I am a firm believer that if you don’t look and feel good about yourself, it clouds everything else you do. Dress up for yourself. Go buy some new clothes that make you FEEL good. Wear a cut sundress around the house instead of yoga pants. Who said you can’t look cute and be a mommy? Plus, a sundress is just as comfortable as yoga pants. I’ve had this same conversation with myself so many times…so I put mascara on and smell good stuff and sometimes I wear a dress when I bake muffins!
.-= A Mother’s Hood´s last blog ..Glamour Mommy Poolside =-.
I know what you mean and I have to start placing that energy back in my life. I accomplish more when I have my hair done well and makeup on – I totall get it.
Thanks for the reminder.
Oh Heather. Oh those emotions, that body angst. So frustrating, so annoying. First, please give yourself permission to be exactly where you are.
I try (boy howdy do I try) to realize that momentum comes from the first step. It just takes one to get started. (And as I type, I feel my belly bulging over my PJ bottoms and just think, SHIT. BUT I’m trying to embrace ME and actually took The Mommyologist’s sexy challenge this weekend and did not make ONE disparaging comment about my bathing suit-clad body. It was hard, but I persevered.)
Good luck. And go to Old Navy–they have some totally cute and sexy things right now. xxoo
.-= musingsdemommy´s last blog ..Touchstone =-.
You know what? I think you need to dress cute for your body NOW. I don’t mean go out and buy a whole new wardrobe, but get a nice pair of jeans, a few cute tops, some funky heels – that fit RIGHT – and wear them NOW. I don’t think until you feel good about yourself where you ARE, will you be truly motivated to do something about getting yourself to where you want to BE.
I am TOTALLY preaching to myself as I sit here in my pj pants and old college T-shirt. But I believe it works. If you start to feel like a sexy mama now (even a teeny little bit) before you change a thing about your body, imagine the motivation you’ll feel.
Tricia – I might just be SO EMOTIONAL about this issue, but to be honest? I just cried when I read your comment right now. You’re right, I am NOT loving where I am right NOW and part of why I am not doing anything about it is because I feel so stuck, but if I just buy ONE cute thing, maybe that will motivate me to get where I want to BE. <—– Where I want to BE…
Thank you so much for this comment.
xoxo
We definitely need to work on bringing your sexy back girl!! Up until about two months ago, I was really stuck in a rut. My clothes were getting so tight, and I was sick and tired of going into my closet and taking 30 minutes to find something that fit and looked decent at the same time.
As hard as it is to get motivated, if you take baby steps and change one small thing, the rest sort of starts falling into place. The big turning point for me was getting my butt off the couch one Tuesday night and taking a Zumba class. I remember feeling like I was going to throw up that night because I was in such bad shape! Still, it was fun, and I came back on Thursday…and it was a little bit easier. I kept going, and now, two months later, I am in an awesome routine and really don’t have to worry too much about the food. Everything in moderation.
They say that it takes 21 days for a habit to stick, so if you can just chisel out one or two hours a week and commit to doing something to make yourself feel more healthy, it will pay off! I promise!! Make it about having time for YOU instead of time to work out!
And thanks so much for the mention!
.-= The Mommyologist´s last blog ..June Mom Sexy Blogger of the Month =-.
Alright, then I just need to give myself 21 days…. I can’t wait to blog about my success and become Mom Sexy Blogger of the month – I should make that part of my goal!!!
Well I certainly didn’t mean to make you cry! LOL But clearly it’s important to you. And just know that as you voice these thoughts, there are a thousand other mamas out there that are thinking them. The reality is, after a babe, NONE of us a what we used to be, no matter how quickly we “snapped” back. And that’s OK, because we have beautiful babes to show for it. It’s a NEW normal. Find your inner sexy mama NOW, and make HER fight for change. The stuck mama is weak – sexy mama, now that girl has some power! Hang in there, you’re not alone!
.-= Tricia@ The Planet Pink´s last blog ..Musings =-.
Part of my issue is that when I gave birth to baby #1, I was back in my skinny jeans within 5 months. I felt AMAZING being a mom and having that “pre-preggers” body back. But now – I just feel stuck since I am not there yet and recently lacked the motivation to make a change. So I knew blogging about it would begin a dialogue that I for one, needed, and I was also hoping it would help another reader struggling with the same issue…
I guess I didn’t realize how close to home it would feel – but maybe this is the first step toward getting where I need to be.
Again, thank you.
I totally understand. I started my weight loss journey in Jan. when I began the 30 Day Shred. I then started training for a 5K, which I’ll run on Sunday. Sounds nice…but I’ve lost a whopping 6 pounds.
I think it is about striking a balance – something I haven’t yet accomplished. I work out, but then eat horribly. If I could get my eating on track I really believe I could drop the lbs.
I really do recommend both the 30 Day Shred & Couch to 5K. I am in much better shape despite still being fat
Good luck!
.-= Anne @ A JD + Three´s last blog ..Lions, steak and new toys: OH MY! =-.
I can totally relate. I wrote about the same thing a month ago here
http://www.mandimillerblog.com/2010/04/mothers-day-is-just-around-corner.html
You’ll get there! I know it!!
.-= MandiM´s last blog ..The Dreaded Diaper Rash =-.
I was just thinking this yesterday, and I decided no more.
If I want changes, I’ll have to implement them in stone.
So, I sat down and figured out ways. Rules work best for me.
I set the alarm for 5:30 am to I could walk with arm weights.
AND no snacking or eating after 8 pm. NONE.
It’s a start. A start which I’ll build on and add to. But’s a step in the direction I want to go.
Excellent post, and you read my mind.
.-= Alexandra´s last blog ..I Haz A Button? =-.
Hi there – I read your post and your response to a comment above about the whole being a glam Mom thing. I think you have to feel good about the self you already are right now before you can be motivated to work on making yourself arguably even better. It took me a long time to realize how important it is to do little things to help achieve that. My old work wardrobe of suits and heels doesn’t work in my new SAHM life, but I eventually figured out that the stained and old clothes I was wearing every day were part of my problem, so I got some new “SAHM work clothes”, some decent pants and shirts and wore them, every day, even if I was staying at home and you know what, it made me feel a whole lot better about myself. I am (if I can get a chance in the midst of potty training) writing a post about this to hopefully put out tomorrow which will say more, so sorry for rambling on here but I hope this helps!
This is part of my problem – I need to put on some cute things that make me feel good in the meantime becasue right now, this is NOT working for me!
I just wrote a post about being the Hip Mom. It’s so easy to slip into the frump and just stay there…miserable. I did it for years! No more. I may not work outside the home anymore but I will slip on my cute jeans and heels to go to my son’s classroom or grab coffee with a girlfriend or to Target. I didn’t run my butt off and lose over 60 pounds for nothing. Oh, and that was my magic formula for losing weight. Running. I started off walking and then setting very small job goals. I can jog from this light post to that one…and soon I was mostly jogging. Need more motivation? go look at my slide show under the Need Motivation tab.
Not trying to be all preachy but I was stuck like you for YEARS and it was not good until I got off my butt and did something about it. Everyone can!
.-= Kerry´s last blog ..Interesting Person: Maureen – Mom, International Blogger =-.
Thanks for that Kerry – I will have to check that out!
I so relate to this! As my girlfriend dashed out of work early yesterday to pick up her kids from school she arrived at the school yard dressed to kill in a little black suit and to die for heels. I was in frumpy capris and a pony tail? Time to make a change….today:) Or maybe tomorrow. Sigh.
.-= ModernMom´s last blog ..ALWAYS the Bad Guy =-.
I am right there with you. I have been feeling bad about myself too…my tummy is getting mushy and I have no cute clothes anymore. I have made every excuse in the book to not work out…and honestly I found it hard to find the time. My husband leaves by 6:45 am for work and doesn’t get home until 7pm or so…this leaves me with the kids ALL DAY LONG. And they aren’t the type that will go off and play with each other. But I actually worked out twice last week and woke up early today and took a walk at 6:30am…granted I was only out for 20 minutes (did a little walking and jogging) and my hubby laughed at me because it wasn’t that long but hey baby steps right? I feel your pain….its hard to get motivated when there is so much responsibility and every day life that gets in the way.
I admit that I am wearing yoga pants and a tee as I type, but I plan on changing my clothes when I’m done blog reading!
I’ve been thinking about the same stuff for a while now. What I’ve realized is that I don’t need to look nice for the Target cashier (my second home) or the other moms at the school. I need to do this for me. Yes I have a lot of clothes that are just hanging in my closet. But doing something like putting on a little make-up, nice jeans, and a cute top make ME feel good about ME.
.-= All You Need is Love´s last blog ..You Want What For Your Birthday?! =-.
mommyologist is exactly right…make the time for YOU not the time to workout. It is perfectly acceptable for you to take an hour a day for YOU. That’s why running works for me. I step outside and just go. I don’t have to drive anywhere or be on a class schedule. I could talk about this for days…lol!
.-= Kerry´s last blog ..Embrace The Hip Mom =-.
You and the Mommyologist are definitely onto something here. Are you going to her prom, by the way?? I think I just might….Going to tweet this post. It’s striking such a chord with me. The difference is that I don’t bother buying too many nice things for myself b/c they don’t get worn. If they do, they get stained, ripped, kids wipe their noses on them, etc….so what’s the point? ack!
.-= Erin´s last blog ..Tickled Pink Today! And More Shameless Self Promotion. =-.
My baby turned 2 in April and yep- still have some of “his” baby weight. I’ve actually lost 4 lbs in the past 2 weeks (slow pace, but totally do-able for me)I’ve stopped eating after dinner (and we eat at 530-6) and have done lots of work outside (hauling soil, mulch and lots of intensive gardening). I also got going on my Wii and did the Fit Plus exercises. I thought I’d be able to do this over the winter so that I’d be able to buy new cute summer clothes (in a smaller size of course), but that didn’t happen. I needed to find some time to focus on myself and not my kids. So hard, but it I want to change, that’s what its going to take. Good luck!
You can DO it, girl! I’m in the midst of a wt. loss goal myself that I started back in January as well – do you have a ‘battle plan’?
Come visit to read my SMART goal – maybe you can set up something similar for yourself?
http://www.wonderwomanwannabe.com/2010/01/can-i-have-my-sweets-loose-weight-too.html
And as for dressing up for the target cashier and pediatrician? Why not? I’ve tried to be more intentional in my wardrobe as well – it makes such a difference in my attitude through the day even if I’m just hang’n with the boys.
i think we can all feel your pain, i am constantly buying cute shoes i don’t wear because let’s face it, i am not chasing a 5 year old around in a pair of pumps. As for losing weight, yeah i did the gym thing in january it lasted two months and i hate gyms anyway. i dance for exercise, but some weeks only once, and some 5 days a week. for me its the makeup, i wear makeup about once every two weeks, i should make more of an effort….
.-= dina´s last blog ..Aromandina Essential Oil Review =-.
Isnt it so unfair how difficult it is to get the motivation and lose that baby weight??? UGH! My son is almost FOUR!! In November I finally had enough and I’m down 30 lbs but it’s been a struggle. It’s been so hard for me and I still have days where I just want to STOP but I will tell you, I feel amazing. I feel so much better! I’m nowhere near my goal, but I’m on my way. You can do this!!!!
.-= Michelle @ Mommy Loves Stilettos´s last blog ..♥Pour Your Heart Out: Words of Wisdom. =-.
Michelle – You rock for leaving that awesome comment and for the encouragement.
x0x0
Don’t you just love all the love and support? We’re all in this together. Here’s my two cents. When you look at yourself in the mirror think of yourself longer and leaner and start imagining that all the time. BE KIND to yourself. Say nice things, not so many hurtful things. Would you talk like that to your best friend? Then sign your butt up for Zumba (Mommyologist does that) or Jazzercize (I found a coupon and joined. I love going with the old ladies, they make me feel like a bad ass) and go twice a week. Better yet, get a friend to go with you. Have the hubby make dinner or if you must make that a crock pot night, but you got to do something so you’re not beating yourself up about it. I’ve been going to classes Wed nights and Saturday mornings then walking 3 miles one day a week and it’s finally making a difference.
Most importantly use your imagination to motivate and be kind. You’re not serving anyone else well by beating yourself down. Hugs to you.
Thanks for that Jen – You’re right, I need to get some positive energy in my mind to make this happen. And I thank readers like you for taking the time and sharing a bit of yourselves to assist me in this process.
I get it…I get you. I’m not going to say “I’ve been there”, becuase I AM THERE. There are so many events that I had intended to be thin and sexy for that are long past…sigh. Those cute moms in skinny jeans and heels? They’re not real. They are cyborgs. That’s what gets me through my days.
I totally understand about the battle to regain your figure back post baby. I gained gained almost 70 pounds during my pregnancy almost two years ago. Everybody kept saying ‘oh you’re young, the weight will just fall off.’ They lied!!! I just recently started losing the weight and did I mention that it’s been almost two years!!!
I’m at the point where my wallet can take any more splurges on trying to buy clothes that fit, but don’t make me look too mommyish. Not to mention, that I’m flying solo at the moment with this parenting thing. If somebody would have kept it real with me, I might been more motivated to do prenatal yoga. Now I’m stuck with a body that I don’t hate, but I don’t exactly love it either.
.-= Yummommy´s last blog ..My Weekend WrapUp =-.
Yes, the older we get the harder it is to lose the unwanted pounds!
Right there with you Mama! Let me know when you figure out the secret!!
.-= Devan @ Accustomed Chaos´s last blog ..Wordless: Beautiful Breastfeeding =-.
it’s hard because it’s a mental thing more than anything else.
i’ve finally achieved my best body (and mind) this year. and i won’t go spouting off my vegan philosophy but, hey, it’s an option.
i wish you luck. i know it’s an uphill battle.
.-= ericka @ alabaster cow´s last blog ..my short fuse or things you can stick up your backside or my baby needs a therapist =-.
It got worse for me with each consecutive child. I vow to change and then…it’s easier to be “comfortable.”
But, I’ve found that cute little dresses- even ones on sale at Target or Old Navy or even Walmart, go a long way towards helping me feel better!
I was thinking the same thing- a pep talk from the mommyologist!
Thanks so much for your comment Shell – I agree, I think I need to take some small steps in finding some cute things to make me feel good about ME again in the meantime – and hopefully, that will motivate me to lose some weight. It’s so hard because I was THAT girl back in those skinny jeans 5 months after baby #1. Baby #2 sure through me for a loop…
I hear you!! Felt the exact same way when I went through my closet for this summer.
Priceless line “Bring my Mom Sexy back” hahah love it.
Sarah
.-= Sarah´s last blog ..My Best Friend’s Shower =-.
I so feel the rut in my house although i am always trying to glam up anything i wear sometimes there is just no glaming up yoga pants and my easytones ! haha… i hope to find balance someday but with that said altleast summer is coming so we can break out the cute flipflops ! good luck with the weightloss it seems it is just something iam always working on !
.-= Connie ´s last blog ..Memorial day Weekend ! =-.
I am right with you!!! I work from home and on those days I am in my pjs. It is like pulling teeth to doll myself up. When I do, I feel really good about myself, but I only do it when I have to go to meeting outside of my house. Maybe we should come up with a challenge on here. We could start with one day a week and move up from there. Post pictures, etc.? I have no clue how to get motivation. I am envious of those mom’s who don’t work and take time to look like a million bucks….I just can’t see the point if I am at home, BUT when unexpected people drop by or I need to run out then I wish I ws like them!
Talk about being thrown for a loop, baby #4 definitely does it!
I think what we’re all feeling here is SO common, I do agree we should start some kind of support group. It is extremely hard to find the motivation and the time to start a healthy lifestyle. Staying home or working at home also presents it’s own set of challenges when it comes to the way we dress and our self esteem. I do think it’s important to put yourself together everyday so that you can feel your best, even if it’s not in high heels, maybe just a new pair of yoga pants and mom t shirt. I think the key here, although very hard to do, is to accept ourselves exactly where we are. We don’t have to love everything about ourselves to love ourselves, and having goals and dreams is part of life. It’s striving to meet those goals that should bring us feelings of accomplishment, not only when we actually meet them. I love the quote “Success lies in the journey, not in the destination.” It took me years to figure it out, but if we think we can’t be happy until we get thin, or dress up, or accomplish something in the future, we just may miss out on the happiness that is in store for us today.
.-= Kimi´s last blog ..Celebrate Motherhood Interviews =-.
I’ve lost the baby weight, but the body’s just not the same. I don’t know if some of it’s age, but I know I definitely have motivation issues. I hate exercising. With a passion.
But I know how you feel, I want to look good and feel good about the way I look. Sigh. I do try to remind myself that this body has given me three beautiful children and that it has allowed me to do some amazing things — even if it doesn’t look the same as it did when I was 20. I have trouble finding balance between healthy and obssession when it comes to the way I look.
.-= GlowinGirl´s last blog ..Feeling Grouchy (Word-Filled Wednesdays) =-.
I was in this same spot a month ago, then yesterday I was FINALLY able to get rid of my “fat pants”. Now I am in the not-so fat range. I am home all day with the kids, but for me, the better I look the better I feel, and I want to look good for myself, I want to be a HAWT mom, but also, as shallow as it sounds, I want to look good for my husband. Guys are so visual, I almost have fun switching up what I wear daily (shorts one day, jeans the next, skirt, etc) just to see if I get a reaction from the husband.
I am going through the same thing. I have been wanting to lose weight for the past 5 yrs. I find motivation, but it is only fleeting and this is beginning to drive me completely crazy.
But I am bound and determined this go round to get my mom sexy and keep it especially when my hubby returns from his deployment come Jan 2011. I am looking forward to blowing him away with my sexiness and confidence.
I just wanted to say you aren’t alone. {hugs}
.-= Niki @ Ambitious Gurl´s last blog ..Some catching up to do…………………. =-.
What a fantastic and honest post! And one that I can completely relate to. I recently went out of town and I found myself absolutely obsessed with the shoes people were wearing. Not because I wanted them, not because I thought they were super cute, but because I realized that my feet would have sworn back at me (loud) had I tried to squeeze them into those adorable little pumps that I see only on TV. And what’s worse – I had no desire to even wear them. . . (I think I’ll have to write a post on it !) Great post today! TRIPLE love it!
.-= Leanne´s last blog ..Memorial Day =-.
I can so understand this! I went back down to almost my normal weight within a year after having my daughter, but 5 years later, I was back up to my pregnancy weight. This year, something snapped in me! I needed to take back my body. I tried just working out, and attempted to eat better, but that wasn’t enough. What has helped is Weight Watchers. I joined online so I don’t have to go to any meetings or anything. Yes, the meetings are great, but I just don’t’ have the time to fit them in. I have lost 11.5 lbs in 2 months and I am so happy.
I am lucky (I guess) that I get to leave the house every day for work, even though I wish that I didn’t have to work. I have to dress nice, because I have to look respectable for work. I wear jeans every day to work, but I still sass it up a bit with jewelry and a nice top. Good luck!
.-= Jayme´s last blog ..Ok…So I Am Over Eager! =-.
and 35 years later here i am stuck in the same rut and then some. it just ain’t that easy i guess. but you’re right—it’s all about YOU and YOU make the decision. don’t lose the battle like i did. good luck
.-= Diane´s last blog ..Photo Kidnapping: A Grandma’s Right in Life =-.
You know I’ve just started trying to sort this out for myself as well. It’s hard but it helps knowing others are in the same situation and that we’re all trying to do the same thing. You’re not alone!
.-= Pumpkin and Piglet´s last blog ..Dreaming of a home =-.
Oh sister girl, you are PREACHING TO THE CHOIR! If I could I’d give you a big ole hug and just say… keep on keepin on. You can only do what you can do.
I’m in a smiliar situation. I had gone from 162 down to 137 with the help of Jenny Craig and the day (it seems) I hit close to my goal (135 was my goal), I got pregnant. Now, he’s only 9 weeks old but STILL. I just want the weight OFF!
I, too, lack the motivation becuase here in texas, it’s already over 100 degrees with the heat index and frankly, I have zero motivation to feel beads of sweat down the crack of my butt. Yuck! Yuck! And Double Yuck!
I’m not in the exact same clothes — I’m still in MATERNITY shorts. I bet I don’t have to remind you how ugly maternity hsorts are. Especially when you’re not “maternity” anymore?! UGH! I want some transition shorts but it seems like now adays the only thing they make are for waifish girls with zero curves. Sister, that ain’t me!
I know part of my problem besides the not exercising thing is that I can’t diet. I’m nursing… dieting is a killer for breast milk production. Plus, I’ve NEVER been one of those women that just sheds the weight like a dog’s winter coat when I start nursing post-delivery. IT hangs on until I’m done. I typically nurse for a year, too. Ugh! I may cut it a little short this time.
I can’t say that I don’t see your point with getting dressed up, too. I have a friend that is a SAHM as well and she, too, was a corporate girl once upon a time. She still buys trendy pieces and always seems to look cute and I just think, WHY? I dont know. I figure I’d rather be comfortable than trendy. Seriously, I think I live in snootyville. I see SAHMs dropping off their kiddo at preschool in heels and done up completely (hair / make-up, etc.) I don’t get it. Why? I feel stupid doing that.
I started to get rid of these clothes that I really have no point of keeping and seriously, it feels good. It’s like liberating.
Last night I watched that show with Jillian from The Biggest Loser and she said, “Why are you choosing to fail when success is an option?” That really hit home with me. I think it’s just baby steps. I don’t think you can change your entire lifestyle overnight (without someone like her riding your a$$ on a 24/7 basis for weeks on end). While I’m feeling all mushy and soft… anything I do to change for the better IS a change for the better and baby steps / slow and steady will win the race.
Personaly, I’d RATHER it be fall…then I can hide my pasty white not sexy legs behind a pair of comfy jeans!
I guess with it being summer it’s more in your face as far as body shape/size/etc.
Good luck!
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i think every girl on the face of the earth can totally relate to your post. we all feel like this at one time or another. i joined weightwatchers 2 yrs ago and lost about 15 lbs. and felt great. i gained a few back, but i still follow the plan ‘loosely’. you are never denied anything as long as you count your points. i also became BFF with the gym, and or doing runs outside, or as someone else said, the SHRED. it’s only 20 mins and ANYONE can do!
best of luck….you will be back in your skinny girl jeans, sportin those 325.00 sassy heals, in no time!
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I know what you mean. I feel like if I ever went anywhere – even to just visit my friend back in Chicago – I would need a whole new wardrobe AND wouldn’t even know what’s cute now!
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I bought a cheap, but really cute, little sundress at Walmart this weekend, and even though we didn’t have any plans to go anywhere, I still wore it, if only around the house. I decided that just throwing on a cute little dress and flip flops, some mascara and lip gloss really DOES make me feel pulled together. I think it’s a mental thing: if I wear a dress, then I HAVE to go somewhere. Really, you don’t. Wear it for yourself and feel good when you look in the mirror.
And at 12 bucks a pop, you can buy one in every color!! ; )
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I do know how you feel. And I am a work out of the house mom. wothm? but really you are an amazing person, and your body is amazing. You’ve given brith to two children! Seriously that’s warrior material! And as long as your moving and eating healthy you shouldn’t beat yourself up about it.
You’re amazing and don’t forget it!
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At least your baby is two. Now that my “baby” is about to turn four, my goal to lose the “baby weight” has just become a goal to lose weight. It’s horribly depressing.
My problem is, even as a working mom, I still don’t have any reason to dress up as my work clothes are scrubs and surgical caps.
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