I have a strange feeling that many of you will appreciate this post. Hubby and I recently had a conversation that went something like this:
Hubby: You know, I’ve been thinking lately…
Theta Mom: About?
Hubby: Well, you know…I work really hard, I’m up so early every morning, I put in really long days…and long weeks at work…
Theta Mom: Uh, yeah…
Hubby: Well, I need some ‘me’ time.
[SILENCE]
Theta Mom: Did you say me time?
Hubby: Yeah, like, you know…transition time.
[MORE SILENCE]
Theta Mom: Transition time???
Hubby: Yeah, like time just for me away from the kids…I need to unwind and make the transition to coming home from work and stuff…So, I’ve decided that I’m gonna take my bike out more often.
[ABOUT TO BREAK THE SILENCE]
Theta Mom: Ok, let me get this straight. You need to take “joy rides” on your motorcycle more often so that you can have time to yourself between your job and home, and this is what you are calling your “transition time?”
Hubby: Yup.
So Theta Moms, when Hubby is out riding his motorcycle, feeling the wind on his face and the freedom of the open road, he’ll be enjoying peaceful trips alone on his bike. His transition time is a total escape…
…and my transition time looks something like this:
Need I say more?
Sounds strangely like my hubby's request for 'alone' time, where he usually hits the beach!
I try to be understanding but honestly, they just don't get it!!!
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Holy shit.. Do we have the same husband??? lol!!!
Ha ha! They just don't understand do they?
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My boyfriend of ten months doesn't like not seeing me even for a few hours, lol. So no, I don't feel ya, hahaha! Just kidding.
Anyway, hope he misses you so much that he'll come right back to you. 😉
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Oh my husband playas golf. Yesterday for 8 hours. And he does not get home in time most nights in time to need transition time. Arghh these men! Jocelyn take full advantage! I am to the laundry for some me time!
Shocking! lol. Gotta love 'em.
Thank God I am so blessed. My husband let's me sleep in and when ever I need some "Me" he takes care of the kids while I do what ever. I am truly blessed
Ooooooooooo those are fighting words!!! PROTEST!!!
Did you make your "I'm on strike sign yet"?
or did you just laugh really hard and say..uh..NO.
What about my time?
Please tell me your dh is still alive and you have not been hauled off to jail because if my dh said that I might need a lawyer.
LOL. How long is his transition time? 15-20 minutes? And hour? Does he know you need me time too?
I think you are married to my husband. We JUST had this conversation. I asked him when my "me" time was. Then he said it was when I was on the computer. Uh, okay, you mean when I still have to take care of at least one kid because you say it is too hard to have both of them crawling on you? sheesh
Oh my word.
He didn't.
I'm okay with my husband having some "me time", the problem is that I give them an inch he wants the whole ten yards. Yesterday, he went to a pool party with his co-workers. He was out from noon until 9pm. Meanwhile, I was home with my 3 year old twins, entertaining them, while doing house cleaning, and well, you know…
There has to be a balance!!!
What did you throw at him?
I'm a monster. I wouldn't let my husband have that kind of "me time." What a man.
this might sound a little weird, but sometimes I enjoy going out with my son without hubby. Whenever he needs "me time" typically in the weekend, I would take my son anywhere I want. I have nobody to argue with as where to eat, where to go… I make all the decisions… : )
He must be related to my husband!! LOL
LOL! I don't get it! My husband is similar. He comes home and it's like he can't even think for awhile. Um, didn't he just spend the last 35 minutes ALONE in the car? That counts as alone time to me!
I did want to add that after his "cooling off period", he is great. He makes our dinner and usually watches our daughter so I can go work out or run some errands.
It's just funny that the ride home didn't count to him.
Haha! Isn't it hilarious how they think they have things "rough".a
shooot..i can TOTALLY relate…
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MEN!! Aww poor guy. You need to please your man so when he gets home from his Transition time hIT him over the head with a frying pan and ask him "HOW is that for TRANSITION?"
Hee heee
Geez my hubby runs to the gym on weekends so he doesn't have to be with the kids early in the am and let me sleep in..UUgh. they just don't get it
God I can so see my husband in those comments, except for the motorcycle part. Me time, what is that anyway?
Theta Mom,
Hopefully he wants to have more time with you after some " me time "
Have the nice day.
OMG…..my husband talks about "transition time" too….do they have a club???
My husband gets home from work after a 20 minute drive and, if he's actually gotten there earlier enough to eat dinner with us, he'll totally try to pull up the newspaper and read it instead of talking. I think when he gets the I'm-going-to-burn-a-hole-through-you look he realizes that it's time to take over.
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Aren't husbands amazing? Wow. Last weekend my husband told me how much he would love a couple of hours to himself to relax in our hammock in the backyard, have a beer and listen to the Yankee game on the radio. Really? Would you? I would love a couple of hours to myself to do ANYTHING. I would love some "transition time"!
He drives me nuts, but I still love him to death !
I would say ok to the bike riding as long as you get equal time doing something better than laundry.
Oh my gosh…that is hilarious.."transition time."!
I don't think he presented his case very well. I probably wouldn't have taken it very well.
I hope he gives you some "me" time as well. What's right for one is right for the other.
My husband attempted to have this conversation with me ONCE. He never brought it up again. I mean, I can totally understand that our husbands need a break too…they work hard to provide for our families and they are good dads and husbands. But I wanna scream "WHERE'S MY TRANSITION TIME? WHERE'S MY ME TIME?" He once told me that when the kids napped, that was my "me" time. I was like, "Uh, the 4 yr old twins don't nap anymore…where have YOU been? And the 2-yrs old, when they do nap, only nap for 40 minutes."
I think you should make a deal with your hubby. For every hour of "me" time that you get, he can have an hour. That sounds fair to me.
LOL, that sounds just like my guy, except he doesn't have the bike quite yet (thank god!!) I swear men don't know how easy they have it!
sounds familiar!
I'm sure all of us craves for some "me time" every once in a while. You've given him the favor then ask for a "me time" as well, then on the next, a full family time with your kids. I'm sure that would be a good plan. Variations can make things a little more exciting than just sticking to the usual, mundane, repetitive life.
I must say that is a cool motorcycle! Make sure you get your transition time! Shopping makes for a good transition time
WOW…Men…is so easy for them to ask for "me time" what about our me time…is spent doing laundry and other house work…
You are so funny!
Now, I'm glad that my husband does not see this. First, he has wanted a motorcycle forever and second….well, there is no second. He would probably be high fiving your husband!
First off, I think our husbands must be long lost brothers or something. Secondly, my "transition time" looks eerily like yours. Why don't guys understand that moms can use some "transition time" that doesn't involve kids or housework or any of the other zillion things we take care of in an average day?
I totally empathize with you!
There has definitely got to be something in the water or in the air because I go through the exact same thing with my husband.
He has a motorcycle and likes to ride every chance he can get. I take care of the house, work FT, take care of him and our four children and run a small business.
Yesterday I asked him what would he do without me, what if I decided to just up and leave and he had the responsibility of solely raising the kids. He's convinced his family would help him and he'd be able to maintain the same type leisure time he gets with me around. It's absolute nonsense!
We have a 13 yo, 11 yo, 9 yo, and 18 month old…
Hahahahaha!!!!! I think our husbands are related
I am still laughing about this!
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No way this would fly at our house. I'd let him know rather quickly that his "me" time could be spent doing some laundry or cleaning a bathroom. I'll even let him lock the door while he's in there. That's about all the peace I ever get! lol
LOL What about us moms?? I think they forget who is with the kids 24/7. Not that I am complaining but I would love some me time too!
balance…balance…it's all about balance.
I understand the "me" time thing for him.
But for you too. He needs to give you a weekend major me time.
Perhaps he can bike to work?
UM, yeah…..
My head would've exploded…oh wait, I've had a similar conversation with my husband. It did.
I agree with the biking to work. HA!